Specialties
Because of life challenges and uncontrolled circumstances, you had to become a woman of resilience. Resilience is built through adversity. Through the good times, and especially through the tough times, you are strong for yourself and for everyone in your circle. Your friends and family members come to you for advice and support when their lives are in chaos. You are the strong friend that nobody checks on and everyone looks up to. Everyone tells you, how strong, beautiful, and smart you are. They say, “you should be so proud of all the things you have accomplished.” They want your life, but no one knows or understands the internal bouts that take place within you daily. No one knows your struggles or understands how burdened you feel. The anxiety, worry, and stress are constantly running through your body. The loneliness, depression, and life dissatisfaction are constantly covered with a smile and a, “I’m Fine.” You wish you could see yourself in the same way everyone else does. Instead, every day, you walk around feeling like an imposter. Never good enough. Never smart enough. Never brave enough.
The way you feel about yourself on the inside is reflected on the outside. You have a pattern in your relationships and in your career with going above and beyond, pouring into others, yet neglecting yourself. You are left feeling unappreciated and undervalued. Every day you wake up with the desire to be positive, but the daily, weekly, monthly, life-long impact of racism, misogynism, sexism, and systems of oppression leave you feeling so shattered and fragmented you no longer can define who you are. Understanding who you are and why you are, becomes even more unclear, as you navigate the difficult task of dismantling patterns of intergenerational trauma and expectations placed on you due to assigned family roles. You have always done everything you were supposed to do and everything you were told to do, but deep inside it still doesn’t feel right. It’s not what you wanted to do, and you are finally in a place where you are ready to figure things out. It is time for you to take the first step towards living your best authentic life.
LOW Self-esteem
People Pleasing
High Achieving Perfectionism
Low self-esteem
Of course you feel terrible. You are in the habit of relentlessly taking care of others and neglecting yourself. Every day, your inner voice tells you and life shows you, that you are not worthy. Despite long hours, sleepless nights, and all the praise you received on that project, you didn’t get the promotion…again. You are, yet again, in another relationship that you have poured into, but are getting nothing out of. Because of these things and many more, your inner voice is telling you that you are unlovable, your feelings don’t matter, your needs don’t matter, and this is the best that it will ever be. Let’s work together to shine light on a better way to live your best life. A way that leaves you feeling confident, proud, and empowered.
People Pleasing
The life of a people pleaser is such an exhausting one. The inability to set boundaries and say no leaves you always over extended and over worked. You put other people’s needs, wants, and desires first, while neglecting or denying your own. You can’t stand it when people are mad at you, so instead of speaking up when someone has done you wrong or crossed a boundary, you go mute just to avoid the possibility of any conflict. You are so tired of making everyone else happy instead of yourself. Let’s take that first step towards finally choosing you together.
High Achieving Perfectionism
You are told by friends, family, and practically everyone around you that your standards are too high. “You’re so hard on yourself.” You think, “I demand perfection and greatness from myself, so why shouldn’t I expect it from everyone else?” Attention to detail, always being in control, and the ability to point out all the things that are wrong is your superpower. Unfortunately, when you set these standards and expectations for yourself and others, it puts you in a position where you feel like you can’t be vulnerable or ask for help. There is a constant self-inflicted pressure to never make mistakes. In your thesaurus, the need for help and support is synonymous with flawed and imperfect. You want to feel worthy even when you are not perfect. Let’s work on that together.